Self Isolation and Your Toddler

Alright mamas, if you are like me and have had the common sense to stay indoors during this pandemic with your children (unlike the many who are still frequenting closed parks for whatever reason), you are likely losing your mind.

In the first week of quarantining, I felt hopeful. In the back of my mind, I told myself “I got this!” and went on with our days full of arts and crafts, activities and a bunch of other cleverly thought out activities to keep my little busy. At the end of week 1, I was still enthusiastic.

By the middle of week two, I went online and ordered a Little Tikes Slide for the living room because I honestly couldn’t keep up with the level of energy my one-and-a-half-year-old was just oozing… CONSTANTLY. I was insanely surprised to learn that ToysRus was considered an “essential service” and was open for curbside pick-up. I threw in a basketball net last minute for good measure because if I am being completely honest with myself, I was completely out of ideas.

That kept her busy for about… the rest of the week.

Without having the park and other outdoor activities to completely tire her out, I was dealing with constant tantrums.

Of course, this was the perfect time for a sh*t ton of teeth to come through.

Week 3 was around the time I developed a bit of an eye twitch, my hair started to fall out, and my acne flared up. *Insert hysterical laugh here* Kidding! But like, not really.

For all those moms who are home with their kids right now, I honestly feel for you. Now, if I had a child school-age… that’s a whole other thing. I honestly have so much respect for the moms home-schooling their children right now. You’re killing it, even if you don’t feel like it.

I just keep reminding myself that staying home is the solution. The more people who stay home, the sooner we can flatten the curve and the sooner we can put an end to this pandemic.

Now, *pours a big ass glass of wine* I am off to clean my living room for the tenth time today and fight with my toddler so I can change her diaper.

We got this!

Let’s Spread Kindness

Where in the world do I start?

The last month or so, we have gone from making light of a serious situation that the Western Hemisphere was too privileged and naive to take seriously, to realizing first hand how serious all the warnings were from countries from the east. Those of us who are immuno-compromised, have underlying respiratory issues, or are older are really feeling the heat when it comes to this virus.

Saying tensions are high, is putting it lightly.

Here in Ontario, schools and childcare programs have closed down, government buildings. A lot of other businesses have closed or are limiting how many customers can be allowed through the doors. Precautions are being taken to ensure we flatten the curve and don’t over-stress the hospitals.

For parents, even though they don’t put children in the high-risk margins, that doesn’t keep the stress or anxiety low.

I came on here not really sure what this post would be. Would it be something that just outlines exactly how crazy this all is, let you know my anxiety is at an all-time high and allow my readers that breath of relief in knowing they are not in this alone? Would it be light-hearted, a reminder that no struggles last forever? A coping post?

Now, I am sitting here while my daughter naps finally getting a moment to breathe on my own and realizing I don’t really know where I am going with this, but I just felt the need to reach out. Write something in the hopes of connecting with anyone out there who really feels the weight of this isolation.

This is a very trying time, you never quite know if what you say is going to rub someone the wrong way because we are all coping with this the best we can, and no two people cope in identical ways.

You may be stuck at home, but at this age, there are so many other ways to reach out to someone. Make a video call, make a video blog, do something to make you feel like the world is bigger than the walls of your home.

It was brought to my attention recently just how much there is for us online. Did you know most zoos and aquariums offer live streams on their websites? Here in Toronto, we can watch the sharks at Ripley’s aquarium or the animals in different enclosures at the zoo all without getting out of our PJs. This is amazing for parents because what child doesn’t love animals? My daughter and I watched the sharks for around thirty minutes today before she passed out.

Jump on your favourite search engines and see just what there is out there to help keep your kids busy. With my daughter being too young for most crafts and at the age where she is getting into everything, something like that was really a lifesaver.

Have realistic expectations of how human the people in your life are, and don’t try to tackle big conversations or issues right now. 

Let’s be honest, communication is a weak point in the make-up of a lot of people. As much as we would love to say communication comes easily to us, especially knowing how healthy communication is for all relationships, for most people that really isn’t true. Right now may not be the best time to address the shortcomings of a loved one, or try and push your views on them. Keep conversations light and positive, it will be easier on everyone involved.

Practice being kind, compassionate, and empathetic.

It’s so easy to forget that just because people are a big part of your life, they aren’t you and don’t think as you do. Sure, you may not be stressed about a certain aspect of his, but don’t invalidate anyone else’s anxieties about this. Everyone’s feelings are valid at this time, and kindness will really make the biggest difference at a time like this.

Just because you’re young and healthy, doesn’t mean you won’t get sick and are not a carrier.

I could go into this one, but really, it should just be common sense at this point.

Mostly, just be kind. Be kind to as many people as you can online, as so many people have flocked to social outlets to feel less alone. Tell that girl doing the beauty tutorials that she is beautiful and killing it. Comment on that adorable baby or pet. Say hello to someone who few comments on their posts. Like the new post with no likes. The smallest thing could make someone smile, and right now, we need that more than ever.

For people battling mental illnesses, this time is especially hard. Most mental illnesses already make you feel so isolated, physically being isolated (even if this is something you did before the pandemic) only amplifies that. Choosing to be alone and being told you have to be alone definitely have different weights. Take the time to be kind, it costs you nothing and can really change how people react to this very difficult time.

Hold the people in your life a little closer. Appreciate moments.

Nothing lasts forever.

We can get through this!